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I don't like to say I am bisexual; I'm just sexual. I have come across many lesbians and gay Why is it so hard to find a grown lesbian fem who say bisexuality is a cop-out and that I am just not owning who I am; well, I've accepted that for some there is a gray area and I wish they would too. I am happy to be in a loving honest relationship with my girlfriend.

Nancy Schimmel left her husband after 17 years, not because she was gay but because the marriage no longer worked for her; she considers herself bisexual but prefers partners who are female and feminist. This may be the case with women who are only sexually attracted to women, but I am attracted to both men and women. Lisa D. She describes her views on sexuality: It is all about desire and attraction, not simply the act itself.

There are, of course, plenty of women and men who are bisexual but I am not one of them.

They often underestimate the power of cultural Married woman in Dayton Idaho. I grew up in a fairly traditional though politically liberal family with clearly defined gender roles. What I learned from my family and from the larger culture this was in the '60s hWy '70s was that I was expected to marry a man when I grew up.

In the face of that insecurity, family and friends may question a woman's motives, her past, and the validity of her journey. Laila Flndwho divorced her husband after six years and two kids, explains, "Straight folk either assume I 'became' lesbian because something happened to 'turn me' or that I was lying to everybody all my life.

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None of this acknowledges the truth of my past, that I was living my life as honestly as I knew how but I only recently began to explore who I am. I had no sense of identity until three years ago. I feel like a child. I wish people knew that I don't understand my coming out either. I'm struggling. Sluts in Portland Oregon ny cry over this. You don't get it? Well, neither do I. I truly lived my Why is it so hard to find a grown lesbian fem life as a straight dedicated wife, mother, and friend.

All I knew was that at age 40, something was missing. Many of us struggle for years and years and many maintain the relationship with their husband yet still seek a relationship with a woman. I'm sorry for the pain I caused my husband. I thought I could maintain a dual life but it simply wasn't possible.

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And sometimes the process of coming out never ends. Andrea Hewitt, who came out at 44 while she was married to her second husband and blogs on A Late Life Lesbian Storyexplains, "One thing that I didn't expect was how you have to 'out' yourself continually. Elsbian most people, heterosexuality is the default norm, so that's what most people assume you are unless you are holding hands with your girlfriend in front of them! So, I continually have to 'come out' in places that I never expected -- at the doctor's office, at my kids' school, in new work settings.

I thought once Iit came out, that would be it; but it's not the case at all. Established lesbians have often fought long and hard to gain more acceptance and are wary of older newcomers, who they feel may be going through a phase or are not ready to fully embrace their newfound identity. Andrea describes it this way: When you come out, it's like you have to start over in many ways, and it can feel like you are a teenager all over again. So, other lesbians can sometimes be wary of dating you if you are a newbie since you don't have much dating experience and you are Why is it so hard to find a grown lesbian fem new to being out.

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I can't even say I was always attracted to women. I've got no 'les cred. Then there are 'gold star lesbians,' lesbians who have never slept with a man; they often pride themselves on this and seem to think it somehow makes them superior. It's really pretty stupid. Later-in-life lesbians may not feel comfortable in the established gay community lssbian their older peers and may have a hard time carving out their space.

Laila explains: I feel like I should be a part of it, but I'm not. I'm on the outside looking in.

My girlfriends have tried their best to educate me. The queer world is different.

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Queer people are different. There are two kinds: I can assimilate because I was part of it but I prefer not to. My girlfriends and our other queer friends don't either. Costine adds another dimension to this difficulty fitting in: Since I came out after getting sober, I don't go to bars or drinking parties. It has been harder to create a group of lesbian friends without finnd initial party opportunity to help me meet other women. The lesbian community College girl iso gentleman have a hard time creating community when a bar is not involved.

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They are not always out in the workplace, and often need to watch their behavior when they are outside their homes. While Lisa D. Another woman a co-worker told me she didn't understand homosexuality but she was fine with it as long as I didn't 'try anything' with her.

Also, there are many places and environments that I would not go findd situations that I would not put myself in--for fear of something bad happening.

So, there is always a kind of quiet Why is it so hard to find a grown lesbian fem that occurs as I live my life.

Andrea says, "The saddest thing is how I have to be careful expressing affection for my partner in Horny for 69 hookup sexxxx in ways that I did not have to worry about when I was with a man. I never thought twice about holding hands or being affectionate appropriately so with a man when I identified as straight.

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Where one lives can make a difference. For Kat, living in San Francisco, "I feel pretty safe being myself overall. I can walk down any street holding my partner's hand without worry.

But when we travel, I often inquire ahead of time how lesbians are viewed where I am going. When I traveled alone to Thailand and Tanzania, I avoided relationship conversations. I am still very guarded with my clients in disclosing anything about my personal life.

So I am not percent confident talking about being a lesbian with just anyone. I guess, in a way, that's probably smart. Costine agrees: Still, there are areas all over LA that are less accepting.

When I venture outside of the inner city into the Valley growm into more white, straight family neighborhoods, I am struck and sometimes even amused by the strange stares I get when I hold my girlfriend's hand. By the way, the stares are almost always given by women. Laila chose to leave her church when the pastor equated being gay with being an addict. She's found it difficult to reconcile her faith with her sexuality. In addition, she works for a conservative older woman with ties to her old church, so hides her true self from her as Why is it so hard to find a grown lesbian fem for fear of losing her job.

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She also has to be careful when she is outside her home: Still, we get looks, stares, glares, whispers at the next table. Heads turn when we walk by. I get scared around anybody seemingly strongly religious. One of the most amazing moments was when my girlfriend and I were Find Lima of town and I told her how I'd researched the area we were in and that they were very queer-friendly.

She reached over and held my hand as we walked. She held my hand!

That still brings tears of joy to my eyes. As Andrea says, "I think it's odd when people assume one of us is 'the man' in the relationship; neither of us is 'the man! They are shortcuts that give us permission to stop thinking and respond to a set of assumptions about the label instead of the person before us. I am a growing soul who has a physical body at this time. That's the only description I apply to me.

Kat says she got caught up in those false labels when she first came out: Uard know I am not ultra feminine but I also did not see myself as this tough masculine person. I know for a fact that my more feminine lesbian friends have a tougher time Married women for sex Folsom accepted in the lesbian community; it's pretty catty.

To this day, I really dislike labels and really get offended when I am called a butch. Pat agrees, "Don't assume we all fit into some neat little lesbian box of butch or femme and don't assume we all hate men -- our sons, and many of our best friends, are men. At least, I like to think so.

Amy brings up another commonly held assumption: That the only fond are the women who look butch. Carren explains: One friend stopped talking to me for several months when I told her about myself. Then she confessed that my announcement made her very uncomfortable, asking, 'What would happen if one day I wake up and discover that I am a lesbian too? Why is it so hard to find a grown lesbian fem, femme, ggown and other tl. Spinsters Ink, Christine A. Smith is assistant professor of psychology at Minnesota State University.

Trained as a social psychologist, Why is it so hard to find a grown lesbian fem current research interests are collective self-esteem and gender self-presentation. This piece Housewives wants hot sex Allerton excerpted and adapted from an article that originally appeared in Journal of Lesbian Studies, Vol. An Exhibition Terrence McNally: Gay Artists in the Modernist Era: Log In My Account.

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